Speak More, Write More…Right Now
09.08.09
For Speakers…
I’ve been speaking in more venues lately and realized I’ve made a few mistakes (I’m sure you’re not making them, but I’m going to share them with you anyway.)
When you speak, there are a few things that you should do every time to increase your visibility:
- send out a press release
- talk about it in your social media circles
- make sure the you get feedback from the audience (or promoters)
- note to self about what you could improve next time
- congratulate yourself on a job well done!
If you’re leaving any step out, it’s the last one. We’re so good at critiquing ourselves, but what about the “kudos”? Are you leaving those out? You shouldn’t!
It makes me think about a rule that we have in our house…
“For every negative memory that you bring up in conversation, you need to bring up two positive memories.”
I created the rule because one of my sons was always bringing up bad memories (badges of honor) and would struggle to think of anything good in his life.
This is a tape recording of what goes on inside of our heads!
Change the tape.
After speaking, for every negative comment that you have for yourself, find at least two positive comments and write them down. The writing of these thoughts is important because it validates them and makes them real.
If you are only thinking of what went wrong, it can have an adverse affect on your psyche – cut it out!
Be nice to yourself…
PLEASE COMMENT: Let me know how you combat negative thinking when you’re speaking!
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Great post, Deidre. Press release! I have a limiting belief that the press really aren’t interested in me, as I hired someone to blast releases before locally with only one small mention. My bad! Limiting belief!
Recommend a speaking mastermind Deidre. We each have big plusses in what we do and I would be happy to be a part. My training comes from Bob Proctor and Paul Martinelli first.
Both of them trained under Gove Siebold Workshop. Bill Gove was 1st president of NSA and is known as the father of public speaking. His mentor was W. Clement Stone.
The top 1% of money earners in keynote speaking are certified through Gove Siebold. I earned my CS (certified speaker) certification.
Taking this keynote workshop I learned that keynote (where the real money is in speaking) is vastly different than public speaking. You can keynote AND do public speaking, but public speaking does not train for keynotes.
Thanks for the post!
Leslie Flowers CS LSC
LOVE your household rule, Deidre!
Imagine the transformation your rule could make if we all adopted the discipline of adding 2 positives for every negative – in our relationships and most especially in our “self-talk”!
Good points and thanks for sharing.